Is it Love or Not ?

Love something that many cant explain what it is..From shakesphere kamban to contemporary poets everyone tried had their views. Shakesphere said "Love has no reasons if it has reasons then it is not love" and Kamban told "Annalum nokkinar avalum nokkinal" can we say its when you get attracted towards a girl when you saw her first time? I think yes.
Its when butterflies fly in your stomach :-)

My Hi tech generation terms something as love. They say a girl and attracted towards her. Then they bend behind their back to speak to that particular person. After which many claims it happened? I don't know how..that's a dangerous topic we have it for some other day..Then they speak with that girl still with something called love lingering around somewhere( But they say they are friends. I don't believe you can say a girl friend and then lover then its doing injustice to that relationship ..That's apart) ..Finally the claim they are in love because she is good looking has all the qualities this person wants and vice-versa...Here one thing to be noted when you are attracted towards someone you wont be your true self...Naturally you will hide your true self to attract that person and make them fall for you...No hard feelings here...This is what we claim it as love...Al right...Lets see how it is different from love marriage..To be honest not much. Here also you see the girl and get attracted towards it. And then speak with her but the real test is after marriage in both this case. Here there is chance of both marriages falling apart..High percentage is something that i don't need to highlight here...

I have a great admiration towards my grandma and granddad as a couple. After 50 years of marriage there is still love in the way the talk about each other. You can feel it. During one of my chat with my grand dad. He started talking about love he said don't be a fool and think that love is what happens before marriage.. He said that just you are attracted towards and the girl make you laugh and nice towards you doesn't mean she is the love of your life. It has much more to it.
He said people tends to be nice towards person they meet, more if they are attracted towards them so you shouldn't be fool to think like that...He said about his own marriage that my grandma is the 5th alliance his parents saw for him it seems. He like her in the first day itself. I thought that's when our old men got attracted..He didn't spoke to her before marriage all he knows is she is also from similar surrounding which made him to think like that she will think similar to him..He said if you ask me now i would say she may not be the most beautiful and intelligent women but without her my life will not be this beautiful. She is the only one could make me feel like that..I thought "ah!! now he is getting romantic".. Its strikes me...I thought this is love which is above all. Here both accept each other unconditionally....He said love is something which will come through years of being together and love each other in all the differences and hard times...It came after lot of patience and sharing...It will be fulfilled only if everyone around you including your parents are happy for whats happening in your life...Its a void if its without your parents wish....I thought if this is not love in marriage then what you will call as love ?

Man in his late 70's to his grandson don't talk something glibly. I feel he meant what he said. And i tend believe so....Here it is what i understood...After years of marriage if you say that she is the best thing happened to me and vice-versa...Then its love. For that to happen you have stick together and come through all the testing times in your life...

To someone who feel i did love marriage. I will say sit back guys its not love its just journey to find love..You found out a girl you are attracted to now you have to go some years to feel what love is..Don't fool yourself around love yet has to be realised in your case :-)

To people who feels that there is no episode called love...Don't fool yourself around, you will find someone down the line are you will find that girl who will turn your world upside down when your parents show you...Its not your mistake that you didn't meet that girl or attracted towards someone...You will also have a similar journey to the one who claims that their is a love marriage no difference guys...Think deep down something will say this makes sense....

So love is something that will come through after marriage and after years together understanding each other...Hope it make sense...Till that time don't make mockery of yourself by arguing which one is better arrange or love marriage ?

So Is it love ? Yes there is love but it is not what we think it is :-)

Goodbye folks....