Its been ages since i blogged something....Got into creepy work and things....Last one week i saw some incident and thing which changed my prespective of the way i look things....
I was driving thru a thick traffic on monday and got into one big signal...A Lady with some 2 or 3 year old kid is begging by the side....When i saw her the kid in her hand leaped a bit and kissed that lady in her forehead...She closed her eyes and enjoyed the moment for a bit....She kissed her kid back...The traffic light turn green i drove towards my office...All this time the incident made me think...By all charitable disposition their standard of living is bad..But still the kid (Though at this age he or she didnt understand anything...) love the mother....Then i understood thats the reason why everyone of us in bounded to our family..Mother the promise made by god to be with you forever...May be the reason why many doesnt want to walk away from their family....
Another incident happened on Thursday as i came to know of a tragic death of my collegues father. He is a fantastic guy who keeps his morale high all the time..He is such a delight everyone wants him to be in their team...We decided to go to his hometown which is some 150km from chennai..All these days i know him as a guy who is technically sound and have a great knowledge about what he is doing...When i went to his place i was taken aback...Its a very remote village...From their he made it to a premier college in tamil nadu...All with the little resource he have...Till then i saw him as a good person..But my respect for him grown enormously after that night...Every new guy he used to help them settle down...he doesnt have a conceited feeling about himself...I understood still there are guys who give more than what its been offered to them..I just prayed to god that he get enough strength to come thru his family bereavement..
Third incident is about another person...He is just a complicated one in many people eyes..even his closest confidante wouldnt be able to judge this guy...Easiest thing you can say about him is "he is doesnt clear about what he wants in his life"...But i find time to look deep into him...His father and mother are from well off family...But his father lost all the money is business...He being at the stage of life where he started seeing things in his own perspective...He saw everything from how his mother struggles while her sisters are having fun in her mothers house...How is father is being treated by his own father...He thought he is not so blessed to have a great and happy childhood as his cousins...Problem of his age is he understand things better than his siblings....From a young caring boy who is calm...He converted himself into a aggressive and snappy one....Being like that (Angry young man) is the only way he is going to open the door thats been shut...He fought the battle with the heart eventhough he cried of his plight many times...Incourse of time as it would normally does he has become a recluse who just have to fight for his crumbs and his families....He concentrated on earning money like no one else in his age group did...All thruout this time he had only one thing in mind he has to restore her parents pride...Though his parents understand that their sons position in society is giving them what they have been denied. They forget to notice the man he would have changed into...He dont have a great opinion about love in marriage.. he felt that its more for the society than to themselves...Its not always been easy to have a life in which your parents complain about their marriage to you...When they say they would have better off with some one else or alone...He started felt the pain that he is a product of his parents unhappiness...Its a bitter pill to swallow for him..When they suggest he should get married he become skeptical...he dont want to have a family he is just a recluse as i said...So its hard for him again he put on the mask he famously did being belligerent ....Its normal for a guy who had this kind of childhood being skeptical about him being loved or he loves someone...I myself felt this guy is better of being alone...But life as it is has its own say...His parents said he has to get married since he loves them he cant walk away either...He feels that life should stop where it is now...He wants to be like this forever..But he himself know its not going to the case...Marriage is not always a pleasure cruise he knows that...But it shouldnt be a failure thats what his nightmare is...Because of all he went thru he dont want this nightmare to come true..For him it would be a bigger demon to exerice than what he experience till date...I prayed for this guy and as i always do i sympathise with him...Life is just a mystery it will be beautiful when it unfolds...Just i told one thing...Life is not always the party we expected but we should not forget to enjoy and thank god for giving it... Hope he experiment and excercise this cloud hanging over his head...
As a saying goes..."Life is a ship wreck but we shouldnt forget to sing in the life boat"
Signing off Niru...
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Independence Day Wishes...
August 15th 1947 We were released from the clutches of the British empire..Republic of india a new nation was born...Here we are 63 years after enjoying every bit of freedom this great nation offer....To all those who struggled for Independence and the one who served this great nation with passion and Dignity we salute you all...Wish you all a great independence....
Lets take pride in being indian and proud of its great history and heritage.....lets enjoy the freedom this great country provide us...And try to work for the betterment of our nation...
Proud to be born as an Indian...
Jai Hind.
Lets take pride in being indian and proud of its great history and heritage.....lets enjoy the freedom this great country provide us...And try to work for the betterment of our nation...
Proud to be born as an Indian...
Jai Hind.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Is it Love or Not ?
Love something that many cant explain what it is..From shakesphere kamban to contemporary poets everyone tried had their views. Shakesphere said "Love has no reasons if it has reasons then it is not love" and Kamban told "Annalum nokkinar avalum nokkinal" can we say its when you get attracted towards a girl when you saw her first time? I think yes.
Its when butterflies fly in your stomach :-)
My Hi tech generation terms something as love. They say a girl and attracted towards her. Then they bend behind their back to speak to that particular person. After which many claims it happened? I don't know how..that's a dangerous topic we have it for some other day..Then they speak with that girl still with something called love lingering around somewhere( But they say they are friends. I don't believe you can say a girl friend and then lover then its doing injustice to that relationship ..That's apart) ..Finally the claim they are in love because she is good looking has all the qualities this person wants and vice-versa...Here one thing to be noted when you are attracted towards someone you wont be your true self...Naturally you will hide your true self to attract that person and make them fall for you...No hard feelings here...This is what we claim it as love...Al right...Lets see how it is different from love marriage..To be honest not much. Here also you see the girl and get attracted towards it. And then speak with her but the real test is after marriage in both this case. Here there is chance of both marriages falling apart..High percentage is something that i don't need to highlight here...
I have a great admiration towards my grandma and granddad as a couple. After 50 years of marriage there is still love in the way the talk about each other. You can feel it. During one of my chat with my grand dad. He started talking about love he said don't be a fool and think that love is what happens before marriage.. He said that just you are attracted towards and the girl make you laugh and nice towards you doesn't mean she is the love of your life. It has much more to it.
He said people tends to be nice towards person they meet, more if they are attracted towards them so you shouldn't be fool to think like that...He said about his own marriage that my grandma is the 5th alliance his parents saw for him it seems. He like her in the first day itself. I thought that's when our old men got attracted..He didn't spoke to her before marriage all he knows is she is also from similar surrounding which made him to think like that she will think similar to him..He said if you ask me now i would say she may not be the most beautiful and intelligent women but without her my life will not be this beautiful. She is the only one could make me feel like that..I thought "ah!! now he is getting romantic".. Its strikes me...I thought this is love which is above all. Here both accept each other unconditionally....He said love is something which will come through years of being together and love each other in all the differences and hard times...It came after lot of patience and sharing...It will be fulfilled only if everyone around you including your parents are happy for whats happening in your life...Its a void if its without your parents wish....I thought if this is not love in marriage then what you will call as love ?
Man in his late 70's to his grandson don't talk something glibly. I feel he meant what he said. And i tend believe so....Here it is what i understood...After years of marriage if you say that she is the best thing happened to me and vice-versa...Then its love. For that to happen you have stick together and come through all the testing times in your life...
To someone who feel i did love marriage. I will say sit back guys its not love its just journey to find love..You found out a girl you are attracted to now you have to go some years to feel what love is..Don't fool yourself around love yet has to be realised in your case :-)
To people who feels that there is no episode called love...Don't fool yourself around, you will find someone down the line are you will find that girl who will turn your world upside down when your parents show you...Its not your mistake that you didn't meet that girl or attracted towards someone...You will also have a similar journey to the one who claims that their is a love marriage no difference guys...Think deep down something will say this makes sense....
So love is something that will come through after marriage and after years together understanding each other...Hope it make sense...Till that time don't make mockery of yourself by arguing which one is better arrange or love marriage ?
So Is it love ? Yes there is love but it is not what we think it is :-)
Goodbye folks....
Its when butterflies fly in your stomach :-)
My Hi tech generation terms something as love. They say a girl and attracted towards her. Then they bend behind their back to speak to that particular person. After which many claims it happened? I don't know how..that's a dangerous topic we have it for some other day..Then they speak with that girl still with something called love lingering around somewhere( But they say they are friends. I don't believe you can say a girl friend and then lover then its doing injustice to that relationship ..That's apart) ..Finally the claim they are in love because she is good looking has all the qualities this person wants and vice-versa...Here one thing to be noted when you are attracted towards someone you wont be your true self...Naturally you will hide your true self to attract that person and make them fall for you...No hard feelings here...This is what we claim it as love...Al right...Lets see how it is different from love marriage..To be honest not much. Here also you see the girl and get attracted towards it. And then speak with her but the real test is after marriage in both this case. Here there is chance of both marriages falling apart..High percentage is something that i don't need to highlight here...
I have a great admiration towards my grandma and granddad as a couple. After 50 years of marriage there is still love in the way the talk about each other. You can feel it. During one of my chat with my grand dad. He started talking about love he said don't be a fool and think that love is what happens before marriage.. He said that just you are attracted towards and the girl make you laugh and nice towards you doesn't mean she is the love of your life. It has much more to it.
He said people tends to be nice towards person they meet, more if they are attracted towards them so you shouldn't be fool to think like that...He said about his own marriage that my grandma is the 5th alliance his parents saw for him it seems. He like her in the first day itself. I thought that's when our old men got attracted..He didn't spoke to her before marriage all he knows is she is also from similar surrounding which made him to think like that she will think similar to him..He said if you ask me now i would say she may not be the most beautiful and intelligent women but without her my life will not be this beautiful. She is the only one could make me feel like that..I thought "ah!! now he is getting romantic".. Its strikes me...I thought this is love which is above all. Here both accept each other unconditionally....He said love is something which will come through years of being together and love each other in all the differences and hard times...It came after lot of patience and sharing...It will be fulfilled only if everyone around you including your parents are happy for whats happening in your life...Its a void if its without your parents wish....I thought if this is not love in marriage then what you will call as love ?
Man in his late 70's to his grandson don't talk something glibly. I feel he meant what he said. And i tend believe so....Here it is what i understood...After years of marriage if you say that she is the best thing happened to me and vice-versa...Then its love. For that to happen you have stick together and come through all the testing times in your life...
To someone who feel i did love marriage. I will say sit back guys its not love its just journey to find love..You found out a girl you are attracted to now you have to go some years to feel what love is..Don't fool yourself around love yet has to be realised in your case :-)
To people who feels that there is no episode called love...Don't fool yourself around, you will find someone down the line are you will find that girl who will turn your world upside down when your parents show you...Its not your mistake that you didn't meet that girl or attracted towards someone...You will also have a similar journey to the one who claims that their is a love marriage no difference guys...Think deep down something will say this makes sense....
So love is something that will come through after marriage and after years together understanding each other...Hope it make sense...Till that time don't make mockery of yourself by arguing which one is better arrange or love marriage ?
So Is it love ? Yes there is love but it is not what we think it is :-)
Goodbye folks....
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Hope thats the only thing we are left with
Recently read a news which says the Kalahasthi Temple tower collapses and its no more....
Its really disgusting to know that something of that value is not been looked after properly....There was a great cry about it from people in all quarters..There was a noise about the carelessness of the state government for a day or two....Now the issue similar to other issue in our country lying deep down somewhere....Only good thing is not much casualty considering that place as a pilgrimage center and a tourist spot in our country.....
Certain things about that incidents needs to be considered here...
First and the most ....The attitude of our archaeological department of our country....We can always say its not been looked after by that department..But the blame should be on them for a reason that tower which symbolizes our culture is not been given the due care it deserves and that department main duty is to maintain these kind of heritage buildings....
This is one of the pilgrimage place of Hindus who are 70 to 80 percentage of our country...We shouldn't go into religious things because we are living in a so called secular country..But i have to ask a question whether the same way everyone would have reacted if it was something close to heart of other religions..This majority in our country(Hindus) are considered by politicians as the people who wont react if they deride these people beliefs..Okay lets assume we are secular and leave this out of the way.... its a tourist spot and it shows our countries architectural excellence...We have look at our western counterparts to learn our lessons and should take a leaf out of their books..Rome and London cities with heritage buildings the government is making sure its been preserved because its how the other knows their country and its place of big tourist interest...No new model building will be constructed in the place near Thames river and coliseum because they love their country and value its architecture...Its high time our politician take a hard look at themselves at least in preserving these heritage value which we will known to people in other parts of the world...But deep down in my heart it says that nothing will be done and my great countrymen will forget this soon enough to help the politicians....
Bottom line is one great value of our country is lost and that process we lost our pride and revenue through that....Above all its been said it will be reconstructed..Good news but lot of money is going to spent on that which can be avoided....who cares :-(
Second one to be considered is whether this incident could be avoided..Answer is in the report by the government itself...It had a crack for 10 years getting worsen and worsen day by day...I have to take pill to harden myself to take this...Really disgusting thing here not only the tower has not been given its care but the tourist and person visiting there are not been respected....If at all...if it all they had a semblance of responsibility anyone whose been in power for these ten years...This could be avoided...But nothing happen....
Please don't jump in to conclusion that i am blaming all the politicians alone here or responsible authorities. And also don't think like i am categorizing it as anti Hindu act....Its something that we failed collectively as a country....I am Indian i love my country for being secular...I enjoy all its diversity because thats where my identity lies...But our leaders and people has to understand it can be secular only if everyone in every community is been allowed to live with their own freedom and their values are respected..Honestly i didn't get any indication that our leaders doing it...They will not want to lose to vote of minority...And hurt their feeling because they wants seats in those areas as well.......By all charitable disposition this is absolute s**t....
I don't know where are we heading as a country but there is no doubt denying that fact that this generation in India (Includes me obviously) worry more about what costume aishwarya rai and deepaka padukone wears in Cannes than our country values and pride..The National news channel is not a exception too..As everyone one hopes i am also hoping that my generation pick themselves up and work towards the betterment of the nation and come out of the satellite television and IPL marijuana..
Lets hope as an Indian after all these years of independence thats what we are left with that this system will be cleansed properly...And radical changes for creating great india will happen soon..Hope after all these years that what we are left with...Lets all Hope...
With Heavy heat i am signing off...Bye Friends...
Its really disgusting to know that something of that value is not been looked after properly....There was a great cry about it from people in all quarters..There was a noise about the carelessness of the state government for a day or two....Now the issue similar to other issue in our country lying deep down somewhere....Only good thing is not much casualty considering that place as a pilgrimage center and a tourist spot in our country.....
Certain things about that incidents needs to be considered here...
First and the most ....The attitude of our archaeological department of our country....We can always say its not been looked after by that department..But the blame should be on them for a reason that tower which symbolizes our culture is not been given the due care it deserves and that department main duty is to maintain these kind of heritage buildings....
This is one of the pilgrimage place of Hindus who are 70 to 80 percentage of our country...We shouldn't go into religious things because we are living in a so called secular country..But i have to ask a question whether the same way everyone would have reacted if it was something close to heart of other religions..This majority in our country(Hindus) are considered by politicians as the people who wont react if they deride these people beliefs..Okay lets assume we are secular and leave this out of the way.... its a tourist spot and it shows our countries architectural excellence...We have look at our western counterparts to learn our lessons and should take a leaf out of their books..Rome and London cities with heritage buildings the government is making sure its been preserved because its how the other knows their country and its place of big tourist interest...No new model building will be constructed in the place near Thames river and coliseum because they love their country and value its architecture...Its high time our politician take a hard look at themselves at least in preserving these heritage value which we will known to people in other parts of the world...But deep down in my heart it says that nothing will be done and my great countrymen will forget this soon enough to help the politicians....
Bottom line is one great value of our country is lost and that process we lost our pride and revenue through that....Above all its been said it will be reconstructed..Good news but lot of money is going to spent on that which can be avoided....who cares :-(
Second one to be considered is whether this incident could be avoided..Answer is in the report by the government itself...It had a crack for 10 years getting worsen and worsen day by day...I have to take pill to harden myself to take this...Really disgusting thing here not only the tower has not been given its care but the tourist and person visiting there are not been respected....If at all...if it all they had a semblance of responsibility anyone whose been in power for these ten years...This could be avoided...But nothing happen....
Please don't jump in to conclusion that i am blaming all the politicians alone here or responsible authorities. And also don't think like i am categorizing it as anti Hindu act....Its something that we failed collectively as a country....I am Indian i love my country for being secular...I enjoy all its diversity because thats where my identity lies...But our leaders and people has to understand it can be secular only if everyone in every community is been allowed to live with their own freedom and their values are respected..Honestly i didn't get any indication that our leaders doing it...They will not want to lose to vote of minority...And hurt their feeling because they wants seats in those areas as well.......By all charitable disposition this is absolute s**t....
I don't know where are we heading as a country but there is no doubt denying that fact that this generation in India (Includes me obviously) worry more about what costume aishwarya rai and deepaka padukone wears in Cannes than our country values and pride..The National news channel is not a exception too..As everyone one hopes i am also hoping that my generation pick themselves up and work towards the betterment of the nation and come out of the satellite television and IPL marijuana..
Lets hope as an Indian after all these years of independence thats what we are left with that this system will be cleansed properly...And radical changes for creating great india will happen soon..Hope after all these years that what we are left with...Lets all Hope...
With Heavy heat i am signing off...Bye Friends...
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Finally the day has arrived.
May 18,2010...A day in which i finally put together a blog..Writing a blog is something i conceived in my mind for long time...Its pretty easy to do thanks to this site but till now i don't understand why i didn't do any earlier...Till a year back there were some doubts about what blogging is in my mind...I thought i ain't good enough to discuss about something...May be i was callow to think who i am to talk about morass of morality ...Now i think i understood what blogging is and decided its time...I going to share what my take on different things i saw and face in a day to day life...May be to the Movie i watched to a book i read...It can be anything that made a impact on me which i want to share with my friends..After all blogging is one way of unwinding yourself and way of connecting yourself to the outside world...See you soon with some post mates...Till then have a great fun!!! Life is all about having fun and doing different things, Is it not ? :-)
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